I feel lost, is this a good thing?
5 points to readjust!
Being lost is a feeling that one encounters at key moments in one’s life. I have encountered it on many occasions and I know I will certainly encounter it again! This feeling is a beautiful thing if we know how to listen and understand it!
We can feel lost at a given moment of our life, when we :
- Loses our bearings: following changes in our life: Loss of a job, a break-up, an accident, a death, etc.
- Uses a bad compass: when we base our life choices on external reference points that do not correspond to us. That is to say, we have made our decisions based on what is valued by our entourage, our parents, our friends, our society, etc., and after having done so, we realize that we are not particularly happy. In other words, we have adapted so much to our environment that we have lost ourselves.
What are the effects on health?
At this point, you may feel :
But, in this discomfort, there is a positive if we listen to ourselves! Feeling completely lost is a message from our unconscious: YOU ARE NOT CURRENTLY ON THE RIGHT TRACK.
How to readjust your direction to feel better?
Becoming aware that you are lost is an opportunity to readjust your direction. But, how to do it? Which voice to take now? This is the difficulty and here are 5 points to help you:
1-Why do you feel lost?
It is important to know why you are in this situation so that you don’t make the same mistakes again and avoid spending a lot of time and energy on new projects that can make the situation even more uncomfortable.
What started this feeling? What has increased this feeling in you? How long have you felt this way?
Come back to yourself and learn to recognize your own inner cues, not those of others.
2-Returning to yourself!
To know your inner references, your Essential, that is to say the most beautiful and luminous part of you. The one that only asks to be deployed in all the fields of your life. By reconnecting to this part of you, therefore by understanding yourself better, then by adapting your daily life to what you are, life will have more meaning and will bring you more joy in your daily life.
In order to access this, it is necessary to get rid of the many conditionings, beliefs, emotional wounds and other blockages that have led you to feel lost.
And for that, it is important to take your time to know yourself, to reconnect with yourself and then to know what are the new projects you need the most to feel better.
3- Give yourself attention and time!
Getting to know yourself better is a learning process and it is not that easy to do. With the hardness of life, you have frequently put your well-being aside for the good of your entourage, your community, the collective before your own in order to avoid falling into the category of selfishness. Oh my! But without knowing yourself, how can you move forward? To feel alive? Find a meaning to your life? Feel confident about yourself and the future?
Knowing what you want requires patience, it’s a learning process, it’s a beautiful adventure, which will bring joy, meaning to your life and the feeling of being in your place.
4-Develop your intuition
Intuition, your true sixth sense that we all have within us and that drives us to act. It can oppose rational thinking and lead you down a path you wouldn’t normally take. But the more you learn to make room for your intuition, the more you will gain confidence and self-esteem. You will no longer doubt your feelings!
5-Get support on this path if needed…
It is important to know how to surround yourself with others to move forward more serenely in this stage. Discover brief therapies that can relieve you, practices adapted to your daily life and your rhythm of life and feel more confident and serene in your life.
The more the tricks become part of your life habits, the more they become beneficial in your daily life and in a sustainable way.
To install a new rhythm of life, to evolve in your way of acting and thinking is not or let’s say not so natural as that even if we feel more and more the need of it. This is why holistic medicine and brief therapies are more and more in demand. Complete methods such as sophrology are real assets to facilitate the way, its way towards SELF.
Christelle Marchetti Veclin